I promised my next post would be more fun, but life intervened. My next post was going to be about the Who. I'm still writing that. Really.
BUT...
Several people have asked my opinion, as a Proud
alum of Penn State and as an alum of the Greek system, what I think of the
recent photo of the Chi Omega sisters wearing stereotypical Mexican gear at a
party.
The Picture in Question
I’ll admit that the first thing I thought was “after
25 years, they (Chi O’s) haven’t changed a bit.”
Of course, those were different times, and my
assessment may not be a fair one.
Now the University is FAR more image conscious in
the wake of the Sandusky scandal, and people are more tolerant of each other
and therefore Intolerant of negative stereotypes.
If I had to guess, the occasion here is a themed
social. While I THINK I know in which
fraternity house this was taken, I’m not going to say. A social is when a sorority is invited to a
fraternity for a private party, usually with some sort of theme, and usually
early on a Friday night.
Did we have themed socials like this in my time? Yes, my house had themed socials and many
with Chi Omega, but I don’t remember ANY that intentionally used a cultural
stereotype as a theme. Perhaps my memory
is selective. It was long ago, and many drinks ago.
What? yes, I was in a fraternity. Many TG people were. In my case, joining was a way to bury the female part of myself even deeper so it would never ever emerge. As you can see, it worked. (heehee)
What? yes, I was in a fraternity. Many TG people were. In my case, joining was a way to bury the female part of myself even deeper so it would never ever emerge. As you can see, it worked. (heehee)
The question I keep
getting asked is “What were they thinking?”
The answer is simple. They
weren’t. If they WERE thinking, they
wouldn’t have posted the picture and tagged themselves on it. That’s out there now- forever. Think that may affect them getting jobs after
graduation? Absolutely: with anyone
except a GOP politician. (Zing!) A hiring manager googles their name and finds
this? It’s over. And you’d think that being members of the
social media generation, they’d understand that.
The fact is that these
are young women in their late teens, early twenties tops. If I wanted to let my bitter flag fly, I’d
postulate that they probably aren’t used to being told “no” about anything,
never mind experience the negative consequences of their actions, as they are
attractive girls from probably affluent families and therefore get what they
want, when they want it. But then I’d be
guilty of the same stereotyping that they are.
But being that age, in college and all, they’re not always going to make
good decisions. It’s part of the
learning process at any university.
I would have only one
question, which I saw in one of the articles I read on this. This would be directed at the Asian American
girl on the left side of the picture.
What if they dressed as Asian racial stereotypes, with comically slanted
eyes and bucked teeth and speaking Pidgin English? Perhaps holding up signs that were derogatory
of HER heritage? Her answer may be “Yes,
it was a JOKE- all in good fun! Chill
out!”
And that would be even
more chilling. That she WOULDN’T care.
I know many Chi Os from
my time. They were one of the top
sororities on campus, and partied at my fraternity a LOT. Many of our Little Sisters were Chi Os. Most Chi Os ignored me, as I wasn’t one of
the “popular guys” and I really didn’t go out of my way to pursue them.
That said I know some
DAMN intelligent, good women who are Chi Omega alumnae from PSU. And I wonder what they think of this. I know their National Office isn’t amused.
So, what would I think
if it were MY fraternity actives in a picture like this? What direction would I pursue as a concerned
alumnus? Well, my reaction wouldn’t be a
popular one. But I know our history on
matters such as this. I’d do exactly
what we did before: Throw them out. All
of them that appear in the picture.
They’ve disgraced themselves and the letters, and have no place in the
organization.
But as I said before, my day was long ago, and
these are different times. And maybe we
took our reputation more seriously back then these girls do with their
letters. I would start by asking my
Brothers their thoughts. You know, the
ones who built outstanding professional careers and brought nothing but glory
to the Fraternity- the men my age who are CEOs, managers, restaurateurs,
educators, husbands and fathers. What
would THEY do? (Yes, looking at them, I’m once again not measuring up, but
c’est la vie. And how would they react to me being transgendered? Not well, I'd guess.)
What would I do if MY
daughter were in that picture? Wow. I really hope and pray that I raise my daughter
better than this- that she will respect people as people and not feel the need
to degrade others for a laugh. But if
she were in that picture? There would be
a SERIOUS discussion of her future at the University, as she obviously wasn’t
mature enough to be out on her own yet.
In the end, these girls
will have to live with the consequences of this drunken night of fun, as will
the Greek system as a whole, and even the University. It’s not like Penn State needs more bad
publicity, especially now that the media sharks are circling.
The news today is that
the Chi Omega national has put the chapter on probation (double secret?),
whatever that means, and that they are working on “educational directives” for
the chapter. The University has said in
an open letter:
“These disturbing behaviors involved expressive rights protected
under various federal and state laws--rights which we strongly support, and
which we honor by not vainly pursuing unlawful disciplinary action against the
students involved. But we also cannot refrain from expressing our own feelings
of deep disappointment and dismay.”
Maybe this will go away now. Maybe not.
Probably not for the girls in the picture, or the Penn State Greek
system in general. I’m sure they’ll be
catching hell for this for years to come.
So, those of you who asked, there’s my answer.
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