Friday, June 9, 2017

Big Mistake

I made a HUGE mistake the other day and its results hit today.


You see, the other day I called Wife's insurance company about changing my name and gender on the policy.  (Wife has graciously allowed me to remain on her policy.)  They told me they can't do it- she has to.  Fair enough.

I then asked about Transgender coverage, and received a nice surprise.  Wife's insurance from her employer now covers GCS. I just have to find someone who accepts BC/BS. It may/may not cover FFS. In any case, preauthorization is required.

So I emailed the doctors that I had researched; asking if any of them accepts BC/BS.

Unanimous:  NO.

This isn't even a case of "in network/ out of network."  It's NO.

So, what was my mistake?

I did something I swore I'd never ever do again:  I allowed myself to Hope.  I thought that maybe, just MAYBE, something would break my way for a change.


And so, the Hope crashes, ripping yet another hole in my soul.  It Hurts.  (And please spare me the "big girl panties" remarks.)

Yet again, the lesson is reinforced:   Hope Lies.

Be well.


  1. Sophie:

    Contact all the Keystone conference leaders you know and get contact info for every U.S. based doctor they know that does GCS or FFS. BE WILLING TO GO ANYWHERE THAT THEY ACCEPT BC/BS. How you get there and where you stay while there is a separate issue.

    Contact Vanity Club members and enlist their help finding the GCS and FFS doctors who take BC/BS. They have to be out there.

    Get creative about this, damn it. No pity pot -- you're too close this time. If it takes a "To Wong Fu Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar" type road trip to get you there, stay with you through it, and bring the new girl home again, so be it. Resources and friends will lift you up and support you. Find a fuc_in way.

    Sorry for the tough love approach, sister, but time's a wastin'.


  2. Sophie -

    Hope is a good thing. False hope is not. You may have to hunt down a new doctor that accepts BC/BS. But all is not lost yet. This sucks. And I hope that things get better for you soon.



    don't give up Sophie! If i am reading this right, this doctor in San Francisco accepts Blue Cross.

    Sharon Rose