tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2242321492229602144.post8178752941503379400..comments2024-03-25T09:33:34.063-04:00Comments on A Woman Named Sophie: This Past WeekendSophie Lynnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04333071551207169892noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2242321492229602144.post-86788782434276392452012-06-05T09:55:27.159-04:002012-06-05T09:55:27.159-04:00Hey Babe:
Introducing your wife to your trans fri...Hey Babe:<br /><br />Introducing your wife to your trans friends opens new frontiers - both for better and for worse. If you need to introduce her to someone first Mel is a good first choice, but now once you've crossed that boundary it becomes much more real. I expect it'll take a little time to percolate and I'm not sure what you expect will come of it, but as you introduce her to this entire other life you've been living that she didn't know about things will begin to happen that you can neither control nor anticipate. Both for better and for worse. <br /><br />Pandora - meet Sophie. Sophie - meet Pandora. And her box....<br /><br />Hugs babe,<br /><br />DonnaDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695864068826692539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2242321492229602144.post-34257904089789767442012-06-05T08:03:34.625-04:002012-06-05T08:03:34.625-04:00A unique and interesting post that shows the rolle...A unique and interesting post that shows the roller coaster/merry-go-round/fun-house ride that seems to be the basic life of many with gender issues. There is a wide gulf from your father's narrow mindedness to the growing enlightenment that seems to be dawning on your wife.<br /><br />I think that you should give your wife a name or initials or something a bit more personal than simply 'Wife'.<br /><br />For what it is worth my advice is to go slow and keep your priorities in order. Like it or not the order of your priorities is your daughter first, then your wife, then your male self and finally Sophie.<br /><br />In your evolving discussions with your wife it seems like she is coming to the understanding that Sophie is always there. You need to work it so that while Sophie will be your regular 'default', that Sophie, at least for now, is not a threat to her, your daughter or the life that she has presumed to be living until last month.<br /><br />While your wife may love you she is the mother of your daughter. Her instincts are at all times to protect her child. I suggest that you heed the words of Sarah Palin and that you 'not mess with a momma grizzly bear'. Go slow as you let your wife come to know Sophie.<br /><br />One path that I used to get my wife to come to know and accept 'Pat' was to emerge as the 'spare wife'. The compromise is that I would get completely dressed and then go about the house as a cooking or cleaning dervish. In the process I have become a better than acceptable cook. I would dress and then spend hours peeling and slicing and putting together a meal. Sometimes Pat would be weilding the vacuum or dust rag or mop. Once a year we wash the walls inside our house. I have a nice spandex slip that seems to double as a maid like outfit that seems to be my typical dress for that task.<br /><br />Go slow and let her get to know the benefits of having Sophie as part of the family.<br /><br />Pax<br />Patscalesmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405121500560615820noreply@blogger.com